Abuse Survivor Journal

traumatic bonding Sometimes people form bonds with the person who abused them. Read each statement below and indicate how often you experience each situation. never rarely sometimes often I obsess over people who hurt me. I continue to seek contact with people who hurt me. I go out of my way to help those who hurt me I continually give second chances

I trust people who have continually failed me I’m unable to leave unhealthy relationships I’m loyal to those who betrayed me I defend & cover up for those who hurt me I’m constantly telling friends/family that they’re wrong about my relationships I keep destructive secrets in order to protect those who hurt me I try to be understood by someone that doesn’t care I continue attempts to get someone to like me who is clearly only using me I continue the relationships with the abuser who acknowledges no responsibility I have repetitive, destructive fights with the abuser I overlook someone’s abuse because of their charm, talents, etc. I have a hard time detaching from someone even though I don’t like them I’m attracted to dangerous people My friends/family often warn me of a relationship, but I don’t listen My relationships involve constant broken promises, and I’m asked to overlook them I keep destructive secrets about my abuser because of his/her career or position I find myself missing and longing for a relationship that was very destructive to me I stay in a relationship longer than I should